Monday, December 14, 2009

john mayer on male behavior

Earlier today, John Mayer shared a few insightful tweets regarding male behavior.
  • "Why men are confusing: first order of business, separate the men who mean well from men who don't think about meaning well."
  • "Now, men who mean well are the most infuriating. Assholes are easy. Mean-well-men are the most destructive types."
  • "Mean-well men are in the business of making others happy before their own needs."
  • "Those needs never surface until they explode in a seemingly out of nowhere outburst of selfishness."
I completely agree with the basic idea here. I do think there is a difference between these "mean-well" men and those who don't even think about meaning well.

I'd say either are capable of causing quite a bit of damage, but that level of damage is where it all changes. The jerks will never get under your skin the way those "mean-well" men do. Sure they could be entertaining for a round of drinks/etc., but deep down you know better than to give them a real/serious chance. Or at least I like to think I do...

It's all about expectations. The "mean-well" guys lead you to believe you can expect a bit more out of the, which is why they'll end up being more infuriating.

The mean-well men are where things really get tricky. It's not to say their intentions aren't genuine, they just may change over time, or, as John said, explode in an outburst of selfishness.

I'm a pretty selfless person so selfishness is one of those emotions I just don't know how to handle... And I have to say it's also a VERY unattractive quality.

What I wonder is, are men always either a "mean-well" guy or a guy who doesn't even "think about meaning well?" Or do they go through phases in their life? Or does it change from situation to situation/woman to woman?

It's a very interesting theory, John sure gave me a lot to think about...

1 comment:

  1. Do you think John would be available for a therapy/vent session with the two of us? Perhaps over obscenely large burgers at Jackson Hole??